It is often said, and supported with historical evidence, that people who suffer from depression turn out to be more successful in their lives as compared to the normal healthy people. I was not able to understand this phenomenon until recently. Depressed people always consider themselves as below average and thus believe their works, achievements and accomplishments to be underrated as well. I have seen and interacted with many depressed people and I have seen them loathe their existence and undermine their skills and abilities.
I think that it is this perception that helps them achieve a lot more than normal people. Everyone in the world has a purpose and everyone is gifted. Some have found their gifts and some have yet to find them. Some might die and would have never realized their true potential while some are born ready; full of potential. Another thing that I observed was that depressed people are feelers (as i like to call it) i.e. their emotions are more sensitive and this can help them connect them with other people either directly by physical/online interactions or indirectly as a work of art, music or literature. Depressed people, since they mostly feel under-valued, they might be contributing extraordinary works but would thus fail to realize them as so. Sometimes depressed people are too hard on themselves and this helps them to push the boundaries and go even further beyond what the common person would ever achieve.
It might seem to you that a depressed person is being ungrateful for gifts and abilities but what you need to understand is that they themselves feel so undervalued that they don’t see them as such.
Emotions are indeed a complicated subject. It amazes me as to how just the chemical/hormone percentages can affect our emotions and how simple it is in this modern age and time to correct those percentages by using medications. It amazes me to see how two people, separated by maybe millions of probabilities, can connect with each other on the basis of emotions. Similarly how two people can feel the same pleasure or distaste for a common stimulus. I was reading somewhere that scientists are on the verge of a major breakthrough to understand and modify/edit memories and emotions felt by humans. Sounds amazing and scary at the same time. Memories and experiences have also played a major role in the lives of depressed people. Sometimes simply these help them achieve what common people would consider as extraordinary.
Wouldn’t it be great if there was a way we could tell someone how we are feeling without actually saying something? People would be careful in advance. No one would have a bad day because of hearing or seeing something horrible.
What I fail to understand is that most people forget that everyone around them is a human being, capable of making mistakes and feeling emotions. Everyone feels emotions. Some of us feel them a lot and some of us have buried them so deep we have long forgotten what they are and what they felt like. Like a soft heart and a stone cold heart. What makes me feel horrible is how easy it is for anyone to misuse and manipulate someone else’s emotions on the fact that they can. Its not a good judgement. Just because you can do something does not always mean you should be doing that. Think of others maybe?
Everyone eventually finds their calling. Everyone eventually finds their purpose. It might be not as great as you were expecting it to be but it is something. Remember even the tiniest of actions can change the course of history and someone’s life. If bad experiences made you into a nice person who isn’t hard on others, maybe you are a beacon of hope & light for someone who looks at you and feels that there are good people in the world. Maybe that is your purpose; to make others feel better and hopeful. It doesn’t sound extravagant but it is definitely something. Sometimes I think most of us have purposes like these. Maybe our existence is justified when we help out someone or make someone else’s life easier. Ever met someone for the first time and wondered where they have been all your life? Why didn’t you meet them before? There something a lot bigger than a mere coincidence at play.
Infinite probabilities exist everyday for an infinite set of events. Only some of them are realized into reality.
Try to be a better version of yourself. Looking for a good friend? Try to be the good person yourself. Make each day of your life count towards achieving something. No goal is too big or too small.